Why don't you start by listing the specific things that you feel need to be worked on in your M. Once you post a list, we can help break it down and come up with ideas/goals to help. Once you see things in balck & white, it might make them easier to tackle, one by one.
I think you are in a good place. Your M isn't in crisis mode like most everyone here....you have enough insight to know there's trouble spots and can begin working on changing things before it gets out of control....that's a big, big positive, Sara.
I recently read a book called Naked Intimacy, I'm sorry, I don't remember the author, but out of the many, many, many (lol) books I've read recently, this is one that I mostly found insightful.
Have a nice thanksgiving and post your "M issues" so we can help!!
