Sarsic- You have been so great on my sitch, I thought it was time to get caught up with you. I am so sorry to hear about your mother's passing. I understand how tough a situation like that can be on you, the people around you and especially on a marriage you are trying to work on.
It sounds like in the past year you have made leaps and bounds in making goals, in realizing problems and dealing with them. You have beeing trying to GAL and it sounds like things are good for you. I am happy for you. I hope that your worries have started to subside. I can understand those voices in your head reminding you of what he did, what he could do, what he said he felt and what he said he would do. Hopefully time will heal, forgive, but not forget. If you forget, you could slip into old ways and habits. Instead, remember it, but don't dwell. Spin it as a positive motivation to keep working on yourself, on your marriage.
Hang in there.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
