Not sure where to begin

[NNP1965]

Thanks for responding Sage. I have never read Mars/Venus, but I will go to the bookstore tomorrow and get it.

I have been reading back through some of your sitch. I wish I had found DB a long time ago. I have spent most of the day reflecting on our R and remembering things long forgotten.

Sorry if this turns into a ramble. I have so many things running through my head.

The first time H said he was not happy was in the May 1998, then again in Jan 2003 and then last fall. So that makes three times and he has never left our house. It seems like just the act of telling me he is not happy lessens the pressure and we move on from there. That is why I am so sure I have to do something or it will eventaully happen again.

The hard part is that he never tells me anything that is wrong. Also each time he has said if he starts feeling unhappy or if something feels wrong he would tell me about it, but never has. Just out of the blue says I am not happy, WHAM.

I have finished reading DR and this weekend read SSM. I am ready to get to work on myself.

I like your idea of three goals and I will get busy on that.

Reading this BB gives me such hope that something can be done. I read 5LL last fall and that made me determined to figure this out and make it work.