So...welcome to piecing. It does seem like a good place for you to be. Like you, my h didn't leave the home (after adamantly saying he wanted to go). It took a LONG time for me to move past the "is this pretend" or "waiting for the other shoe to drop" phase.
How are you doing with reading DR?
My best advice to you would be threefold...work on yourself and the things that make you happy, work on specific things in your m that need to improve and work on issues that h has had with you in the past. I like to make 3 goals at a time -- one for each of these areas.
So, what would get that PMA up and get you feeling good about yourself? Any things that you've always wanted to learn or do???
As for the M goal -- what I'm talking about here are things that bring you and h closer. For my h and me it's time spent together -- hiking, movies, dinner out, whatever. What is the glue that holds you and h together? What were the fun things that you used to do?
Then, for the "issues" goal, pick something to work on that irked h. Clutter, interrupting, talking too much, disclosing secrets to family...whatever. Tell us a complaint that h had about you.
Finally (for now!), I cannot recommend "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" highly enough. It is a wonderful companion to DR. If you haven't read it, do so. If you have, read it again.
Poke around here and read some threads. You'll see we've all battled the battle.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
