Yes, we both did. Last summer. I dated a few people and was in a R with someone for about 3 months. XH also dated, and actually almost married someone (can we say screwed up?). But the whole time I missed him, and he missed me. Eventually we decided this was just stupid. But this past year of working things our and trying to get back together has not been easy.
I'd suggest the playing it cool route, like you've been very busy. One thing you could do is try to be very busy with as much as possible. Check into some hobbies or revisit some you used to do. Let her contact you. I don't think that avoiding phone calls and not returning e-mails is the right thing. You are not a rude person; that isn't you. BE YOURSELF. But if she calls or writes make sure your response is very friendly and confident, just short.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Your right about the fabricating. I told that to C4C earlier but also told her to make sure if she did that she had the whole story down. I wouldn't make it elaborate myself but say something like I was golfing or jogging or widdleing wood.
I have the next 5 days off so anytime yopu want. Mel is more than welcome to join. You have my number so call when you want to.
Jak466
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
I think the easiest solution is actually to get busy. Find something you enjoy doing, preferably away from the house. Something that you will continue to do. I think when we just get started and think about GAL, we consider things to do that aren't really who we are or even what we want to do because we want to make an impression that we are moving. What we all really need is to actually do the things we want to do and actually "move on". Those things will ring true to your X, but the purpose is to make you happier and more fulfilled, not influence her.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
I agree. I have been reahing out to friends but all are married and have family functions going on so it has been tough to do things that I would normally do. I am setting up a few things. I am helping one friend put a bathroom in next week. Hopefully we can go out and swing the clubs. Haven't done that in a long time. I have been staying away from the booze because it was really bringing me down bigtime but I am ready again to have one or two and it looks like I might be able to meet up with LR for it. That will be nice. I do agree I have to get out and get moving. hopefully after school starts all my married friends will be around more and I get pall around with them.
Sorry you have been sick lately. Hopefully it will pass quickly.
Jak466
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
Hi there, I'm never in the D-still trying area here, but came to drop a line in on your thread Jak, you've been so supportive and consistant commenting in mine. Get the motorcycle already! Great idea. Before it gets too cold to ride. I used to have one when I lived in Mpls., it was really fun. I'm still in De., about to go for a morning run. Not eating very healthy out here. Funny to be in farm country and the food options and choices are so awful. Same all over the u.s. So I'm eating all wrong as I always have to in the country, really need the run. Heading back to the city in the afternoon, because we have to pack for our trip. I work Sunday and then we leave Mon. a.m. early. I read through your thread so I understand your sitch better. So sad, I'm sorry. What a lousy situation we've all found ourselves in. Seems you have as hard a time with the db at times as I do. It's a challange. People here claim it gets easier as you go, I have barely had a chance to even try it. And the little I've done, is undone by my mistakes. But this is the only hope we have, since the time machine is only a dream. We have to try it wholeheartedly or be ready to walk. I don't see it any other way. Peace, Joni
