Kev, beastiality - no! homo - I was beginning to wonder! (majorly j/k!)
As for the abuse, I figure you should get a dose here and there since being in a better r w/our exes was part of our goals!

Jak, sorry for the thread hijack - back to u!
I'm going to be blunt here (hopefully not offend you) but you haven't really seemed like the friendly, happy sort of guy you really could be. Being an 'ass' isn't going to get you anywhere; she'll have more reason to say 'yea, that's why I left him'

Being forceful could be a type of pursuit. Just start doing things that you like to do, be the person you once was, and have patience. She wondered about you already, she may just start wondering more.
T