I have pretty much always had a dog too. I am so glad my H cannot take my dog -- as you know, you can't leave a dog home alone for 24 hours at a time. Now if he would ever move in w/OW and try to take the dog -- there's gonna be quite the fight.
I think I'm about an hour from Emmittsburg, maybe a little more than an hour.
Quote: I could really go for someone to just hold me. Is that silly?
No, man. It isn't silly at all. I can't tell you how many times I've felt like that myself. It wouldn't even matter who it was. Just the comfort would make all of my troubles disappear for a little while. It shows that you're human and a sensitive guy, which isn't a negative thing.
You're not alone, buddy. Try to keep your head up and your shoulders back and let her see the bad mutha you are.
I think your personal could have been written by me. I'd love to stick the first three or four items in XW's face. I wasn't as good about doing the other stuff you mentioned, but I would like to in the future, w/ XW or someone who deserves it. I think I would have been better at doing the little things had XW been a little better at speaking my love language or whatever, but she was never one to take blame or admit she was wrong. I was always the one who was inadequate or needed to change. I guess it wears on a guy never being good enough. No excuses though. I dropped the ball and I'm trying to improve myself for myself.
My usual response is to be friendly and happy, should I 180 this and be a bit of an ass? I don't ask about OM. I don't pressure to call me, what should I do? I have always given her her freedom to decide. Should I be more forceful?
Jak466
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
Kev, beastiality - no! homo - I was beginning to wonder! (majorly j/k!)
As for the abuse, I figure you should get a dose here and there since being in a better r w/our exes was part of our goals!
Jak, sorry for the thread hijack - back to u!
I'm going to be blunt here (hopefully not offend you) but you haven't really seemed like the friendly, happy sort of guy you really could be. Being an 'ass' isn't going to get you anywhere; she'll have more reason to say 'yea, that's why I left him'
Being forceful could be a type of pursuit. Just start doing things that you like to do, be the person you once was, and have patience. She wondered about you already, she may just start wondering more.
T
(I won't say it!) 
If I wanted this kind of abuse, I'd go back to my XW!!! 
(majorly j/k!)
