We all hate it when our WAS' are sad. You can't fix it for her right now. When/if she is ready to be a part of your life again you will know it. If you were to "jump" right now I think it would scare her away. That would basically be invalidating her decision. PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE.
emailed wife and she responded. I just don't know. I really feel she is more concerned about her feelings of guilt. It seems when she knows I am doing fine, (as I tell her in my emails) her attitude changes and she gets standoffish again.
I am doing better emotionally. I think the meds I am on are starting to work. About Time!
JAK466
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
I've reached that conclusion at times also, Jak. The WA doesn't like to deal w/their own guilt in the sitch, therefore tries to be nice, comforting to the LBS. It tends to make us more confused and give us false hopes.
I'm not saying there is no hope, I see quite a bit in your sitch. But she isn't going to come back out of guilt, or want you to be dependant on her for your emotions. The stronger you are the better it will be in any type of R w/her.
Let her get curious about what you're doing. She contacted as soon as she didn't hear back from you. Right now it may be out of guilt, let it go and see what she does next.
Hope this makes sense, the caffeine hasn't kicked in yet this am! T
I want to speculate about something even though we aren't supposed to do that. I don't think your XW is nice to you purely out of guilt. If your W didn't want to feel guilty she could avoid you altogether. My STBXH and I have no C, like in jaks sitch and my STBXH avoids me completely so as not to "feel" anything...whether it be guilt, something good, or whatever. I have tried to be friendly to STBXH and he knows I don't hate him so his avoiding me is not because I'm a hateful b!tch.
I think your XW really does care about you and doesn't want to cut the ties completely. It may take her a while to wake up and smell the coffee, but I think you have a chance.
I sure would like to think that. Going to waite for her to make next contact. It was all her MON TUES WEDS. She emailed back after I sent one yesturday.
It basically said, just want you to be ok. And that she was training someone new at work.
That was it. No sign offs or sign ins. Just that.
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
I hit a wall again this afternoon. About 4pm I became very depressed. I guess that is to be expected. I could really go for someone to just hold me. Is that silly? I just want to wake up to something familiar. I am looking to the future to see what I want but it is very tuff.
WANTED:
Good Woman who knows there is peaks and valleys to marriage, That men and women speak seperate languages. Understands some change can be slow. Must like roses, Movies, some displays of public affection, good sense of humor, good food on a grill, walking, and talking. Must like daily phone calls to here someone say I love you. Must also be a little independent and have some personal hobbies. MUST LIKE FIRE TRUCKS.
Jak466
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
WANTED: Good Woman who knows there is peaks and valleys to marriage, I don't like hiking for that long! That men and women speak seperate languages. Nope, I was going to learn French or Italian, not Male! Understands some change can be slow. Must like roses, Movies, some displays of public affection, good sense of humor, Mine's sort of a sick one good food on a grill, walking, and talking. Learned to do this when I was a year old Must like daily phone calls to here someone say I love you. Must also be a little independent and have some personal hobbies. MUST LIKE FIRE TRUCKS. hmm, well, the trucks are ok, not sure about the fires.
I should probably go check out some personal ads out there, I probably wouldn't fit into anyone else's choice either.
Sorry to hear that you're down again. It's definitely not silly at all to want the comfort and security and to feel some 1 close. Take care. T ps. drop me an email if you get a chance, don't worry about me stalking you; I'm still hung up on my ex!
Sometimes it does take a while for the meds to start working. But if they haven't helped after 2-3 weeks, you might need to go back to the doctor as it may not be the right medication for you.
You are going to have down days and times when it just overwhelms you -- it's ok, those times will become less intense and less often. Is there anything in particular that may trigger your down times?
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