I figure I'm stuck w/him! Dd25 got him as a pup the same year s9 was born, and he appointed himself guardian of s9. Of course, anytime I have had to be away from the dog, he pines away for me to come home. Then my cat (purebred himalyan) that I got for just me is 'male' crazy, and doesn't want anything to do w/me. Follows s17 around the house ALL the time.
When would the next visit be? Maybe arrange a dropoff point so the OM isn't around?
T
I'm sure you're mad about that (but you might take a moment to analyze why you are--the reason stated is because SHE didn't do what you wanted her to. And things probably weren't great between you two when you wanted to go). But my personal and NOT HUMBLE (he he) opinion is that when something should get you down it's the perfect time to not get down about it. Act as if you don't give a rip. Whose time share is it now? Both of yours? Perhaps if she went you can ask how it was looking and indicate that you want to go later (not with her). Just a thought. It's up to you whether you deal with the issue at all. I forgot about the counselor part when I wrote before. I probably wouldn't mention it either or at most say you're doing well, but will keep her in mind.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Its hers NOW. I still haven't adjusted to my wife sleeping with someone else so I do not want to get on that subject because it will lead me to OM talk and what happened to us talk. I know some of my limitations.
I did send her an email just now because I really don't want to talk. I was freindly and said I was busy, knee is doing better, not to get to stressed at work and signed off with a smile.
Good?
Jak466
Jak466
State Trooper: Do you feel this vehicle is safe for highway travel?
Del Griffith: Yes sir. Yes. Yes I do. I mean she may not look like much but she'll get you where you wanna go.
FWIW, I agree pretty much w everyone else. I would e-mail W but WAIT a while. Not jumping to get the phone is O.K. but don't do it out of anger, because she'll be able to sense it when you talk to her. I would wait a day or two to e-mail.
When you do e-mail W, I wouldn't go point for point either. Just skim over the important points, express thanks for her concern about your well-being...you have been doing well but very busy. Be busy for real, so when she asks what you are busy w you can say "oh, I went to lunch w a friend" or whatever.
I would either ignore the vacation subject or do what l_e says if a time share is the case.
You did great on the e-mail and no you don't have to call her. The fact that you are still PO'd about the vacation will probably set you back anyway. Let her wonder why you are busy. She is probably checking to see if you are still "there" and if you're mad about V w OM. Don't react. When you finally do EM or talk to her, act like you are the tops and don't have a care in the world. Then kill her w kindness.
