General opinion on this bb is that ignoring/being dark will make the other person angry. I wouldn't reply to her email too quickly tho.
Then send a short note, 'Been a little busy lately, no infections (or whatever the story is on the knee) sorry to hear about the girls, I know you are taking good care of them.'
Then let her contact again. (but then that's my opinion, let's see what every1 else has to say!) T
I agree. Reply to her later, and keep it short and sweet. If she is making a true effort here, going dark would backfire on you. Short and sweet would be my answer.
You know I would never turn down an invite to give advice that will probably involve pursuit. I only know what little you've written, but I like your wife. She's sounds sweet. Reminds me of my own XW.
This e-mail reads to me of someone that wants to talk, touch base, determine whether you are angry, and see if you are okay. She's worried dude. At the very least you need to reassure her that you are okay.
My suggestion is to reply to this note as nicely as it was sent. Address point by point and do not linger on anything overlong. Do not in any way indicate that you are anything other than just peachy (how are you by the way?) and that you are recovering nicely. I would make inquiries about how her trip went, her health, how she is otherwise doing, and thank her for her concern. I would use 2/3 of your reply to put the focus on her and brush over yourself.
I would steer completely clear of anything that even resembles a R talk. And Jak, I know you really feel an overwhelming urge to tell her how much you miss her, but don't do it. And don't end your note with miss you too. It's okay for her as the WA to say "miss you", but as the LBS don't do it.
Jak, something at least made a babystep in the right direction. Since you have been avoiding her, then it might be that. Answer this note, be friendly, confident, strong, and then let her initiate the next time as well. Don't take this moment to ask her to lunch.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
This is great. All my new friends are here. My knee is still a little sore but comming along. I think the time or meds are starting to help (slightly though).
i will not ASK ABOUT HER TRIP THOUGH. i TRIED TO GET US TO GO ON A TRIP FOR OVER A YR AND SHE WOULDN'T DO IT. I WOULD THINK SHE WENT TO OUR TIME-SHARE IN MATZELAN.
I am angry!
Jak466
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I understand how much you miss them too, and in the future maybe you could arrange w/her some time to see them. But wait until your PMA is high so she can tell you are doing ok! (btw, what kind of dogs are they again? I have this mangy flea infested shitzu w/a bad haircut, that I'm willing to part w/! j/k )
Don't listen completely to Wes. I wouldn't hit every point in the email. Her trip bothered you, so asking about it may come off as false interest. As for the mc, wait until she brings it up in a convo and say as you mentioned b4 that you have continued seeing her for personal growth.
And definitely, don't say anything about the 'miss you'. Let her continue that pursuit! T
