I am in that SAME boat. My XW tells me that she loves me, but not romantically anymore. I asked her if that means we are done for good, over, done with. The she says she is not going to close the door on any possibility because you never know what can happen in life. That makes me hopeful, but confuses me. I love you, but I don’t love you, but you never know what’s going to happen. I hate it! Sometimes I feel she is playing games, other times I think she is confused, other times I am downright pissed. Brother my heart is torn up as well. I know exactly how you feel. This has been going on since May. All of my get back together talks with her, sex 3 times back in July, cards, flowers—none of it works. She’s been dating as well, but she got burned and guess who’s shoulders she came crying on? Man that was like a corkscrew right through my heart, but I was glad that it didn’t work out. This is what I am doing now; after reading DB I am doing the 180, I’ve slipped a few times, but lately I have been adamant about it. You see, I have to see her every day because we have 2 kids together and exchange them every day. So unfortunately it leaves an opening for me to slip. But I have been stronger, but brother it hurts. She needs the space and so do I. I know for a fact that as much as I want her back, if we were to get back together tomorrow, it would not work out. I am hopeful as you are, but I really think it will be a year or two before we ever get back together if ever. I have to work on the changes that I need to make. I cannot just declare that I’ve changed; she needs to see that I’ve changed and it can’t happen overnight as much as I wish it could. I have a very hard time with patience. I'm grateful for your posting, now i know I'm not the only one. I feel for you bro and I’m routing for you!
