About your stuff at W's house...If you want/need your stuff...GET IT...If you don't need it, then forget about it. It's as simple as that. I just got the last of my stuff from STBXH about a month ago, because I wanted it and there is no guarantee I'll ever get it now that the papers have come.
I totally agree w greekgoddess and that is that only thing I regret about DBing. I didn't drop the rope until four months after the bomb and I wish I would have done it sooner. After analysing 16 months of this BS, I realize the only thing that affected STBX was the bums rush on the phone and acting HAPPY. Start acting happy until you ARE happy. That will affect the XW the most and you will be GAL at the same time.
Start doing things that you always wanted to do, start living, do something that you and XW always wanted to do...w someone else and stop worrying about what she will think. Just do it. If you have the opprotunity to show her (subtley) that's even better.
I know this sucks and I'm really sorry about your anniversary. You WILL make it through.
A happy confident, smiling person is attractive to anyone. Thats is the best chance you have with WA, even though it may not seem like it.
GG has some great ideas about starting small. Make a little ritual out of them. Maybe go somewhere new for lunch once a week as a treat to yourself. You may even meet some friends there. Do somethong productive around the house and then buy yourself a little token of appreciation for yourself...and on and on until you become the most important person in your life. Become the WAH and spoil yourself. You deserve it.
I'll be thinking of you and praying for you tomorrow...you do the same.
Thanks for chatting and give me a call if you want...otherwise I'll make a toast to the new you!
