Hi, Jak! I'm a little ways from the border, in the wonderful dells area! Ever heard of it?
Maybe you feel like it's a 'slice of hell' right now; but you know what they always say - when you're at the bottom, the only way to go is up! ^^^^
So for tomorrow, don't have any expectations. Let her do all the talking. Small talk, weather, etc! Keep a low profile and concentrate on yourself. All the things that you want to say, can keep for another day.
take care of yourself, hope the surgery goes very well! T
ps. one day I do want to get over that way, but it's going to involve SHOPPING. I suppose I might be able to fit some bowling in, but I am terrible at it!