Wow! There is a ton of hope here. You know what you have to do. You have to LISTEN and be PATIENT. She says she doesn't know what your future holds and to just be patient. To me it implies that there is still hope. There won't be if you can't knock it off with all the pressure. Get back to just friends with no more of the past R talks. She needs to work through that stuff herself. Over time the regrets, disappointments, and anger over the marriage can be replaced with decent memories.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt