Sorry if I smoked you out by posting here and caused you to use time on the BB other than somewhere else that may be more productive in your life right now. But maybe you belong here from time to to me. I like the synergistic possibilites!
1) The Question: If there were three people throughout history you could invite to dinner--including anyone liviing today, who would you choose and why?
Btw, Merrick is a not good baby name, but I would suggest a version of Mary.
If my recollection is correct, you have been baptised and Mary is the perfect example of faith, grace, and acceptance of something bigger than her that she could not fully comprehend, but better understood as time went by. I think this embodies your R with the SO and what your baby girl needs from you; she'll accept you and SO as loving parents and put complete faith in you.
Of course, knowiig how lyrical you are, Mary might be a bit old-fashioned, so you may prefer a variation like Marisa or Maria--assuming that's not Swiss Miss's name! I also have a lot of people you don't know praying for you and Seth to make this work.