Hey there - I was in deja vu land reading your post
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And then and there I learned that he wanted me to sit there with him and watch, to validate, to see how skilled he is. And I had to smile to myself - such a little boy way he said it. So I stayed and watched and punctuated with appropriate ooohs and ahhhs until I felt it was safe to take a breather from the dramatic plastering and go upstairs for a few minutes.

NG is the same, except he does not ask, he expects me to read his mind. Aaargh. And pre dbing, I was just not observing enough to figure out what he needed. But here is my problem, I like to parallel process, and just sitting quietly, just being, is sometimes simply beyond me. I like to think its an acquired skill and that I'm getting better, but golly, I do have some moments with the whole QT thing

More power to you, J, in figuring out what works. Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time