My point was that Jennifer needs to keep her goal in mind. We all have opinions from what she's posted (or direct convos with her) whether S. is "husband material" or not. That's Jennifer's business, not mine.
Jen, I think you need to figure out your priorities and hew to your goals. Merrick is right -- there will always be a threat to any M. The threat might be a third party, or a lack of honesty, or gambling, or addictions, or whatever.
There ain't no perfect down here on this planet.
I agree with Betsey that SM's decision to continue contact with S. is probably a reaction to his lukewarm support for the agreement. If he had been adamant, the tone of her message would have been more final, if she had sent one at all.
Girl, you got your hands full. All I'm suggesting is that you go into the next couple of days with a clear head -- clear on your priorities.
