Merrick--You can disagree with me all you want! Because I think we meant to get to the same place as you wound up in your post.
Thank him for divulging, snooping, etc.? I guess I'm not against the snooping or for the thanking--it's a reaction to his continous desire to hold Jennifer at bay and not make any decisions about them. Of course, I don't advocate snooping, however, it's not like he's going out of his way to reassure her either.
So I'll fast forward to your extremely well stated questions.
Carry on!
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