9. ...and asking me to spread frosting on your body clearly indicates your chauvinistic desire to force me into the traditional woman's role of mistress of the kitchen!
HDog... I have a cruddy day lined up here---thank you for the laugh!
I was about to reply to Geek's "sex is FREE" post when I saw yours and cracked up
Unfortunately, too much of it hits home for LD me. Perhaps it's my long ago Calvinist roots, work before play and all that?
Speaking of frosting, I guess I always thought of sex like dessert. The problem is that in my moralistic mind, and with my clean-plate upbringing, dinner (the basic needs) always came first and dessert was entirely dispensable, in fact maybe even too indulgent to have very often.
Now I'm trying to live by a new motto, metaphorically speaking: "Life is short: eat dessert first".
"Sex is FREE" is another motto I'm tattooing on my brain.
We're going on vacation soon, and I'm taking to heart the various HD comments that a sexless vacation is not a vacation at all.
Doglover
There are many wise, empathetic and funny people here: you are my buddies - I'm grateful for your support.
And don't forget that "Talk is cheap. And that's one of the best things to be said for it."
While I am not averse to a roll in the hay, I really want to carve out time to talk to my W alone, with no kids and no shopping. We last went out to dinner alone last fall. I don't know about you, but I find talking to W, under the right circumstances, an evigorating experience. And it doesn't cost a cent!
When we do ML, she seems to want to get back to "the real world" right away. One of the most pleasant evenings I have spent with W recently was at a cousin's wedding. We ML and didn't have to get right back to real life because we were staying at a hotel. Unfortunately, the hotel costs plenty.
Quote: It just kills me that we can sit there in a house all alone with the physical parts capable of extreme pleasure and what are we doing? cleaning the house...
Ok, so you said the kids go to school for 6 hours and you want to ML that entire time..but she's running errands and cleaning the house.
So let me ask you this. If you did ML for the 6 hours, what would be typical then. You roll over and fall asleep and then she's up all night trying to clean the house, run the errands, tend the kids?
How about you spend three hours working side by side with her to clean the house..then you grab her and ML for the remaining three hours. Show some effort in her direction and it my work.
Gigi
"It's not what happens to you, it's what you make of it." Zig Ziglar
GS, Sometimes the shackles on the mind are more often than not stronger than any physical/situational limitations. There are countless examples of athletes who have overcome disease, loss of limbs, accidents, you name it, to achieve thier goals. If a person has the right mindset, there is virtually nothing impossible. The other side of the coin is that people with a mindset of perpetual pessimism find it extremely difficult to achieve goals.
Being able to put aside daily life and enjoy the immediacy of sex takes a thought process that requires a focus on the now. It is extremely difficult for some LD to stop thinking of the consequences of not doing chore A, errand B, or fulfilling obligation C to enjoy connecting with their partner. The goal is to realize that chore A, errand B or obligation C are not all that important in the grand scheme of things. And even if they are that important, can't they wait a few hours?
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
1. I promise to close my eyes. 2. I promise not to be blinded by your beauty. 3. And your point is...? 4. Not with the paper bag over your head. 5. But with Viagra, I'll still be able to keep my erection! 6. That's okay. I may be able to see you, but I'll be thinking of Raquel Welch (or Bo Derek, or Shelley Winters, or insert your favorite fantasy here). 7. Not if I look in the mirror, Countess Dracula. 8. That's the whole idea...otherwise, the camera won't have sufficient light. 9. Yes, it's daytime and I'll be able to see you. Would you rather wait until nighttime, when I won't be able to see you as well, you'll be asleep, and I'd do it anally, like every other night? 10. The question shouldn't be whether or not I can see you. The question should be whether I can still smell you, and, oh yeah, no difficulty there.
or
Quote: "I'm just not interested"
1. I know you're not interesting. Oh, you said, 'interested.' Ooops. 2. Well, to be honest, I wasn't all that interested in cleaning for two hours, but I got down on all fours and did it for you. Now it's my turn. 3. I see the lips moving, but all I hear is "blah blah blah." 4. That's what the goat said last week, but she ended up enjoying it. You will too. 5. And I'm not interested in hearing your lame excuses. 6. Your mouth is saying "I'm not interested" but your body is saying "take me, I'm yours!" 7. How about if we do it doggie style, so you won't have to miss your favorite TV show?
Okay, I'm spent. Sorry for any excuses that cross the line into misogyny. I was just trying to keep GS amused.
