I think it is exactly this line of thinking that causes me to resent my wife.
Here's how it works...
I go through a checklist of all the reasons you CAN'T have sex in your life...
I'm an adult. I'm married to someone I find physically attractive She says she loves me We are both physically capable The kids are both at school I have the day off
Basically, to me by the time I've gotten this far down the list I'm wondering "just how many of our fantasies could we play out before the kids get home at 3pm...hmmmnn, that gives us 6 hours..." Boy, this is going to be fun...
NOPE
For the LD person, they are still thinking about the laundry, the loose board on the door, the errands to run, etc...
For the HD person, it's like "live life to the fullest - I want to run around the house naked and play with chocolate frosting..."
The resentment comes when you feel like the ONLY reason you are not having an awesome sexual experience is because of your partner.
You start saying things like "if it were up to ME, we would be having fun..."
"if it were not for his/her poor attitude..."
"the only thing stopping me from a great sex life is him/her"
It just kills me that we can sit there in a house all alone with the physical parts capable of extreme pleasure and what are we doing? cleaning the house...
I just keep trying to tell myself that without the emotional, mental desire there can be NO physical fun...
