Thanks, 2much. And Mellanie. It does help. I think I understand what emotional safety, or lack of it means.
I do not think that I ever used W vulnerabilities against her. I never shared what she told me with anyone else, I do not think I abused her trust. But it really doesn't matter what I think on this matter, does it? 2much, how long did it take you to regain this emotional trust? Was it only you and your efforts to recover this trust? Or your H has done something specific to help you to trust him again? From your example it seems that he has not changed, has he?
Mellanie, is it safe to say that you may never again trust your H because of his infidelity? I never betrayed my W, never touch OW, but does it count?
This is the biggest problem in my R. W says that there are stuff she doesn’t tell me, and there are emotional places she doesn’t take me with her. It is devastating for me to know that she feels so.
I so much appreciate your thoughts. 2much, sorry for talking about myself on your thread. Thanks.
