Yes, Mel...that is exactly what I meant. I do feel emotionally safe now. I am not so afraid to approach H about certain things. I do trust that he will not intentionally hurt me, and if he does, I feel better about letting him know that he has hurt me.
For example...the other day, I was having a really tough time with one of the daycare kids. I told H, I was going to have a breakdown, to where he replied, "well then, maybe you should not be taking care of kids"..WOW!!! Hurt my feelings a lot...so, I cried and cried...then when I felt strong enough, went to H and said, "when I told you I was having a hard time, all I wanted to hear was, "I can understand, (child) is a very difficult child". But instead you told me that I should not be taking care of children and that really hurt my feelings." H got a little defensive, but then backed off. Even if he still did not comfort me, I was able to share how I felt and in turn felt better.
