Without reading your thread (maybe I will get to it later today) I dont know what you have or have not been doing. Is your H telling you he still wants out or is that just the "vibe" you are getting from him?
Honestly, I do not think H honestly knew that he was ready to stay in this marriage until about April, 8 months after the EA ended. It took a long time for him to get to where he is now, and only now am I starting to really feel that he is here to stay and it took a year!!
Most of what I did, was working on myself. I didnt pressure H at all. Of course there were couple times I did some dumb stuff and thought it was all over, but then I just stepped back and gave H some space and things eventually blew over.
Just be patient. Is he still at home and saying those things? If he is, it just might mean that he is still unsure, but if you are seeing positives, just focus on those. Continue to work on you and make positive changes in yourself and he will soon see that those changes are for real. Has your H ever told you any of the things that we consider Love Busters? Have you worked on those things?
I will try to read your thread later today....hang in there!!
