I know how frustrating it is to want them to show even just the smallest bit of affection and getting none. Especailly when we do extra special things for them. But you're right. You have to expect nothing from him right now. XH is just starting to do this again. Sometimes I have to do it first.
What do you normally do when it's time to say good-bye? How can you do a 180 that would surprise him?
As for being nervous and worried about the party, don't be. You sound like me yesterday, worrying about things we can't control. Just keep looking at all the positive things he is doing and act "as if" and remember we can either be happy or unhappy. It really is up to us.
