Quote: but he said he was going to play poker w/ friend online. I said, ok, then I will find something else to do and he said, You know, you can watch a movie w/ out me. and I replied, Oh, I know I can, but if I am going to sit and watch a movie, I would rather do it with you so that we can spend time together, but if you don’t want to watch a movie, believe me, I have plenty of other stuff to do.
2much, I face the same challenge. It seems it is me who always suggests to spend time together. For a planned events, such as weekends, things work out quite well, as W and I plan it together. But when there is hour or two free, it is always me who comes up with idea how to spend this time.
And when I do so, W feels pressured. I decided to back off. I just do my stuff, mostly reading. If W wants to do something together, she comes and says so. Otherwise, she does her stuff as well, and everyone is happy. Well, I still would like us to spend this time together, but I concluded it isn’t worth it: I do not want her to be pressured.
As far as party is concerned, I would just go ahead and have a great time. Talk with people, smile, laugh, and enjoy yourself. I bet H will see you happy and will not be able to resist and be around you. Just enjoy yourself!
