Hi 2much! Great positives! I'm glad that things like this are happening for you, and that you're noticing and appreciating them!!

I have thinking about starting to ask H for some things that I NEED! The best way for me to figure out if its right is to try, right?

Right! If there's a possibility that you think that the LL test thing might be too much, too soon, there are other things you can try, to ease into it some more. Some things along the line of "I like it when you.......", or "I really had fun with you when we.....", and things of that nature.

In this way, you're not really telling him what to do, you're telling him what specific things you like, and giving him a chance to do things on his own.

And remember, us guys can be pretty dense, so just letting him know that your LL is WOA, or whatever, try to give some specific examples. Who knows, he might catch on soon, and start becoming more creative! Remember to recognize and reward positive behaviors, too.

Good luck, and have some fun with this!!!

JJ

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