Quote: Ok..so now I know...H does not like public displays of affection. He has never come out and told me that...I guess all those times I did, he just was being nice and not telling me, while probable being uncomfortable all the time. So, I am glad he told me..good to know!
The one good think I've noticed since all this maddness took over and doing the DB thing, is I've learned more about my XH. Some R stuff but also things about him in general that I had either never noticed or just didn't get before (since you don't talk about the R, you have to talk about something!).
Quote: So, are we in a good enough place that I can talk to H about this? Should I take the LL test and then show it to him?? Or do I just be patient like I have with everything else?
I think it depends. With my XH if I showed him the LL test, he would take it in a bad way, as if I were saying "you're doing this wrong. you're messing up." If you decide to directly come out and talk to him about it, make sure you use lots of "I" sentences and don't make it sound like you're blaming or complaining. I guess I'm most with the giving it time thing. Maybe do something different and stop giving him the kisses and see if he says something to you? But you have to do what you think will work best because you're the one who's there and in it. Good luck!!!
