I was on this board a few months back but you probably don't remember. I went through this thing where I was putting out for my H 3 or 4 times a week (wayhay) and he was enjoying it and it made our R much better but then suddenly he just switched off on me. Like I was controlling things and making him happy and he didn't want to be made happy.
He even complained about lack of S.E.X. in a heated discussion we had a few weeks ago and I just couldn't help but throw back at him the weeks of jumping his bones that he just threw back in my face.
But enough about me how about you. You wife is in her head much to much in her head she needs to get into her body not just for your sake but for hers too. She says she needs some time to relax do stuff for her like vegging or reading or anything. Why don't you suggest something like yoga, you could get a yoga DVD and do it together. It is not like you are suggesting any sexual contact and it is really relaxing. She needs to loosen up and regain contact with her body then she might start to feel those urges again.
I have been reading Narcissism by Alexander Lowen because I fear my H is narcissistic. Verrrry interesting book, I noted how much I am pretty narcissistic myself but the book also gave some physical things to do to release pain and anguish in yourself which just blew the lid off for me and really helped..
Here's me feeling horny and you feeling horny and we both love our SOs - hah cruel world
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
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