I like the cd as a back-up to the book but I think the book states the concepts more clearly especially because of the vignettes. I kinda think that the material in it could be a little threatening to your W. She seems threatened by some really mild stuff.
The more that you describe her the more I feel that she is psychologically traumatized in some way. You and the actions that you take play a very miniscule part in her reactions. She is reacting to the gremlin that she sees sneaking up behind you.
I could be wrong about the Schnarch stuff with your W. She is very cerebral so she might enjoy it from that perspective. She could definately use it against you - point out where she sees you as "fused" but it might at least open the dialogue a little more. Lately, your posts have demonstrated much more vulnerability on your W's part. Be the man of steel but try to find the softness in her. It is definately there.
