DL: I really appreciate your insight and welcome your contribution. Some answers to your questions. Yes, I have shared SSM with her. She ended up using passages from it that supported her viewpoint against me, and minimizing the "just do it" approach. So, that was a bust.
Also, I went through a period during which I was trying to prove to her what a "normal" sex life was like. Big mistake. She got very defensive. Claimed I was telling her she was abnormal. Currently, she is in about the same place I was back then; trying to prove her "normality" and show that I have abnormal expectations.
I, too, wish she could see the potential benefits that may come to her if she tried and ended up enjoying it. Yes, her hubby would be happier, more responsive, more loving; but beyond that, she may find out that she has been really out of touch with her body and with her sexuality and with her womanhood, and that ML can help foster those discoveries.
Yeah, right, she'd say. Just another rationalization to try to get me into bed.
But I shall continue my quest.
BTW, I'm a doglover, too. Three Boxers. W and I used to run a boxer rescue organization.
