Someone has to listen first. If you give that listening to her even though you may have MUCH MORE of a "beef" than her. It will soften her heart to be able to hear you.
But be sure you are clear about what you NEED once she is ready to hear.
I don't think you should "suck it up" and just ignore what you need, because it will distance you and cause resentment in you toward her.
But someone has to start the listening so that the blame game stops.
Bad communication hurts the relationship and then the sex life too. I'm glad if something I've had helped in any way at all. No one should live the path we have....it is way too painful!!! Avoid it, really!
