RE: nicegal My point is that WE ALL defend ourselves and BLAME the other one.
I just wanted to pop in and say how much I like your post, seeing both sides of a R and trying to get people to open up and listen w/o being defensive.
To me, there are too many LD spouses don't want to have sex with their HD spouse until the HD spouse is about to leave. I would like the sex to increase for all HD spouses before they are in that "ready to leave" position. I will be reading your posts and see ways for this to happen more.
Did you have a post some where that describes what might have worked with you? I think this question applies but I have not read all of your posts.
