I am so sad for your situation. I am sure my husband would have said he felt just like you too many, many times.
She probably has lots of logical complaints about you too!
If you'd hear me talk about my H and how I see it you'd be on my side. Then if you heard my H and how he sees that I treat him you'd be rooting for him. Funny...we are all like that!!!!
Our differences cause us not to really HEAR each other.
Your wife married you and obviously gave you some pretty great kisses! Or you wouldn't have married her. What has happened over time? Taking each other for granted? Not treating each other with the same kindness and courtesty as early on? I don't know. But there are things that can creep in on all our marriages. INdiviual issues yet many are the same.
Have you asked her (kindly and lovingly) why she doesn't want to kiss you anymore? And don't defend yourself at the answer. What if she says because of how you talk to me? Will you listen to her "beef"? Will you hear her? Will you then FORGET what SHE IS DOING WRONG and just hear what she has to say about you. Show her you are open. Tell her you are sorry. Ask for specific things.
Or will you blame her and point a finger at what she is doing wrong.
I am not saying you do this I have no clue!!! So thanks for bearing with me. My point is that WE ALL defend ourselves and BLAME the other one. Change has to start somewhere and we are all waiting for the other person to change before we change...because of course they are more at fault that we are! ha ha.
I'm just giving an example of listening to each other. Someone has to swallow (their pride) first and reach out to the other person with real compassion.
We are all human and make gigantic mistakes! We have to try to help each other through our weaknesses.
Oh, well. A few thoughts. Hope one of them gives you something to ponder. Don't give up.
