Yoyo, H sure is missing you. I am not sure on the contact thing. I think it is definately great to miss a few calls, delay replies to texts etc as you have a life. Maybe you could try getting the boys to call him, rather than you, and monitor what reaction you get. Especially if you are getting dressed to go out when he asks the kids what's Mum doing? It is a hard balance to strike, between having him know he is still a part of the family, but you are also moving on (with or without him)

Smile, it makes people wonder what you are up to!