I think you are doing well with not contacting H, letting him contact you

Err...KDK - Didn't really keep to that too well to that. After my last post, H did send me a text, which I replied quite immediately. I should have let it sit for awhile rather than replying immediately. He didn't text back. H did call me on my mobile, which I missed (not intentionally though...), and he called me directly on my work phone. Spoke a bit. Told me that he may not be able to attend his sister's wedding on the 18th. I was and said something like "you are coming back this weekend for your friend's wedding but you are NOT gonna go to your own sister's?" to which replied that he has to be back this week to sort out his passport. He asked if the boys asked for him..and I was like "err..actually No". Felt really bad telling him the truth..maybe I should have lied? Then told him that I needed to go to Country X next week (14th to 16th) and he was quite blase about it. Anyway, we then ended our call. Later, I called him back (yes, I know I shouldn't) and said that "perhaps you could delay sorting out your passport by one week, and in that way, you could attend your sister's wedding instead". H replied that he'll check with the human resources department first. Kept the call real short..didn't linger (normally I would... ).

Later that night, felt kinda bad that boys didn't ask for their father...so, I called him on his cell. BUT..NO answer. Then send him a text to tell him "Tried calling you for boys to talk to you. Can't reach you. Nevermind". Two hours later, H called back and said that he left this cell in the hotel room, and why didn't I try to call him on the other cell?.. I then let the boys speak to him. And when the phone was passed back to me, I just gave a friendly BYE....

So far, I have held off asking him outright when he will be back. I don't want to bring it up. I WILL be patient to wait for him to tell me. Besides, he may not be staying at home anyway.

I have a question to all of you DBers... I know a lot of you have tried not to contact H and let them contact you...but I feel that I need to send him emails or texts to tell him about the boys. Is it okay? I sent him some pics of the boys yesterday (without pictures of me, of course)... I guessed it's okay to be DARK about myself but providing LIGHT when it comes to the boys? SOme feedback please...

One Day at a Time!!!