Hi! Deb... Thanks for dropping by. Have been keeping up with your sitch too. I guessed we are all treading on thin ice?

I've also found that when H would bring up ow, I got the best results by just looking calmly straight at him and not saying a word.
Yeap! Have been keeping MUM when he brings them/her up. Most of the time, he continues to talk about them/her. I only interject when I feel very strongly about something (like the part he told me that he brought OW's mom to our house...a joke to check out my reaction???). Mostly I shut my mouth quite well in these episodes.

The tampon stuff is weird, smells pretty fishy, I have to say. wierd no matter what was going on with/between them
Yes...it is very very fishy. But he is not saying anything more. I really do wonder. If he feels he is gonna go the other way, might as well tell me all?

Journalling..
I received a receipt for H's car yesterday. It indicated that his loan was paid by a cheque from Bank Y which he doesnt' have an account, which means that it was OW's cheque. I texted H "Wow! She paid for your car. Does that mean that you are the mistress and not her? Ha Ha Ha". Well, I have to say that I got a call immediately (in RECORD time, I might add) from H. He was soooo shocked that I knew about it and he kept insisting that he paid her back and he didn't have a cheque blah blah blah so had to get her to write a cheque (I was thinking..hey, we do have a joint checking account! Why can't you use our cheque?). I went on and said "Hey, since she bought you a Prada wallet for your b'day, and you being the mistress and all... Maybe she should get me a Prada handbag for my birthday next month". He said "Don't be silly. It's nothing. I paid her back!". So, what do you make of this????

H then came back really really late, past midnight and showered. I stirred and mumbled something to him. And then he just came by and initiated s@x. I was not really in the mood.... and he said "it's gonna be a long time" to which I replied "It's okay". But he was insistent We did it and somehow I bled I thought it was him? But turns out to be me. He was really concerned and said that I should go check it out. In my heart, I was thinking "well, if it's anything sinister, it would be to your advantage, wouldn't it? Me out of the way. You can have OW and the boys"...but of course I kept that to myself and just answered "I'll see over the next few days". Then our convo:
H: I am soooo unfit. Can't even last long in the game. 15 minutes and I almost died. I have to quit smnoking!
Me: So, I guessed you drank more than you played. You went drinking after, right?
H: Yeah.. we went to this yuppie coffee shop.
Me: C&S? (I was just guessing...)
H: how do you know?
Me: Told you...I have sixth sense...nothing can escape me.
H: Tell me....how did you know it was her cheque? Oh..is it from the receipt that was sent?
Me: (Grinning....) Of course..otherwise how would I know, silly!
H: Anyway, I paid her back, okay.
We then went to make supper together (yeap..in the middle of the night!) , had a little chat (about cost of things in Country X, him not being fit..him giving up smoking blah blah), and then watched telly abit before bed.

This morning,...he seemed cheery when he got out of bed. And I was still spotting abit and he said that I should go check it out again. I just answered that I'll give it a few days. Then H left the room. Not long, S8 came to my bedroom and told me that his dad has asked them to THROW all his cigarettes! We'll see if this giving up cigarettes will last....

Sh#T! I have to say "Mentioning OW" is my WORST unattainable DBING. REally REally have to stop. And let him bring her up himself and not instigated by me.

One Day at a TIME!!!
ZIPPING UP MY MOUTH! OR STOP MY FINGERS FROM TEXTING???
REALLY!!! STOP MENTIONING OW