Kismet - I hope that the positives will continue to come. As for him mentioning OW and his family, according to deb (on piecing), she says that for her sitch plus a lot of those that she has seen, when the A is on the verge of breaking up/dissolving, the WAS will talk quite a lot about OW. I hope this is true. My H never ever mentioned about OW before. I've not even know this person existed. I mean I've known quite a lot of ppl from his workplace but never once he mentioned OW's name. As per deb, WAS needs to slowly work out breaking up OW in his mind...I don't know hope it is true that this is happening. My H said that he broke up with OW half a dozen times ??? But was never successful.

Journalling..
Last night, I was packing for my work trip away and wanted a travel-sized toothpaste. I had run out and rummaged through H's toiletries bag. Guessed what I found? A tampon (that's not my brand!)! I immediately texted H and said "Mmmm Guessed what I found in your toiletries bag. A tampon! That's not my brand! Mmmm What does that mean? Mmmm"
He didn't reply my text. Also texted him (this was before I found the tampon) that I will be sleeping with S5 again as he's got a fever again. No reply on this one too.

Later that night, H came into S5's room and tried to "explain" about the tampon.
H: She was travelling with me on the plane and just asked me to store it for her.
Me: (Quiet)
H: There's nothing okay?
Me: Why are you explaining yourself to me?
H: I am not explaining myself. I am telling you.
Me: You don't have to. It's nothing. Afterall, you are gonna leave me for her.
H: Who says I am leaving you for her? Besides, what's the big deal? I've got loads of it in my briefcase.
Me: Huh? My god!
H: Yeah! Sometimes we go for lunch, and she doesn't carry a bag and ask me to carry it for her, and I stuff them in my pocket, and later just chuck it into my briefcase.
(Is my H that THICK????)
Me: I don't believe it. You don't see me asking my coworker to carry my tampons. It's just sooo not it.
H: Well, you don't have anything going on with your coworker.
Me: Maybe I should!
H: I don't see what's the big deal. I've bought you sanitary napkins.
Me: Yeah...anyway, I don't want to talk about it. I don't want to fight.
H: I still don't see what's the big deal.
Me: I can bring up three women and you can ask them if it's a big deal.
H: Why are we talking about this? I am telling you there is nothing. Even if I tell you that I havent' had s@x with her, you wouldn't believe right? Anyway, FYI she is not pregnant.
Blah blah blah... discussion proceeded to him talking about OW's father again. About their funny house. Then we talked about my MIL... Then I said something about Prada paperbag in the other room.And he said "If you really want to know, she bought a Prada wallet for me for my birthday. You are right, I wouldn't go into a shop and buy one myself." And I answered that "I am sorry...but I will never ever walk into one of those shops and spend that kind of money". I can't really remember but one part:
Me: I just have to find a man who loves me.
H: I love you.
Me: (Quiet)
H: Believe me. I love you. 18 years...Of course I love you.

Oh well...There were other parts of our convo, I did the NO No again..called OW a "low life". He didn't scold me or anything. Just rolled his eyes...(I guessed this is a baby step? Before, he would have defended her like h@ll)
H: I brought her mom over to our house to see our kitchen.
Me: You bring low lifes to our house?
H: Her mother. Not her.
Me: Same thing. She brought her up with low values. So, the mother is also low life. How could you? My home is my santuary and you bring low lifes into our home.
H: Told you, she didn't come.
Me: (Tearing and all)
H: I was just joking. Nobody came. I was supposed to bring her but was too busy. I just want to see your reaction.
(DONT't You think my H is an @sshole? Biggest @sshole of the year!!!)

I really really have to adhere to DBING.

1) Absolutely NO R Talks!
2) Absolutely do NOT mention OW!
3) ZIP UP! ZIP UP!

One Day at a Time!!