I know it's hard to ignore OW, but it really will be less of a drain on you if you're not thinking about her, ok?
I think it is time to go a bit dark. Not to get his attention, but to pull yourself out of the tidal wave. You need a breather and space is the only way to get it. No more R talks. He's going to Country X. You're not. Nothing to discuss (beyond logistical considerations) for a few months. Give yourself a vacation.
