Still Yoyo-ing About #2 ....

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Yoyo...I agree with Hellkat. Don't be with H because he doesn't want to be alone. If anything, H needs the alone time to get reaquainted with himself. I've read that people don't like being alone because they aren't really happy with themselves.

may not be IN love with you, but I do love you....I can learn to be IN love with you

Is this what happened when he first fell in love with you; he had to learn how to fall in love. Did he learn how when he "fell in love" with OW? I don't think so. Love isn't just a feeling, it's a decision.

My H said the same things to me when he was comparing me and OW. H and OW are not compatible...she's more country living and he's more city living. He's often told me that he know's I'm the better woman. He's even said that OW, her family, and friends are people that H and I would not associate with. So then why is H with her now? Who knows. I believe it has to do with self-esteem. OW put him a pedestal and stroked his ego (I'm sure among other things... ). After being with your spouse for X amount of years Hs & Ws tend to take each other for granted.

It sounds as though H is sending you mixed messages. He's telling you things about the future as a family, then he's telling you he might have OW stay with him when he's in Country X. I know WAS are just as confused as the LBS. I wish there was a way we can unmush the mushed brain..lol. Just stay positive and strong. You said the past two months are an improvement, keep doing what you are doing and the next two months may even be better!!!