I want you to be sure of your decision because I don't want to move to a foreign country when there is NO us. I would be miserable and I think the boys will be in a worse position with a miserable mother there.
Your boys would be in a worse position...they would have a lot to adjust to already and would need the help of their strong, and HAPPY mother.
Good on you Yoyo for being honest with H and putting all the cards on the table. H needs to know how important it is that his decision be permanent, b/c you don't want to go thru this again....and in a foreign country to boot. If his head is truly starting to de-fog he will see that you are making a reasonable request from him, yet at the same time giving him time to come to this decision...not asking him to give you an answer tomorrow. So the extra time gives him less pressure, but yet b/c of what you said there is a little pressure there...he can't 'yo-yo' around with you anymore.
In the meantime GAL and PMA! And give yourself some time too!
