Yoyo O.K. good explanation, I didn't realise how much you had given up previously. Well I guess if H asks you to go again you could say that you don't believe it would be the best of moves for the boys as they would have to learn a new language, make new friend etc and also that your not sure you want to give up your career when you have done that once to have your family that you dont regret but that you can't afford to do it again, when things are so up in the air with your M. Maybe if H is serious he will be then one to change jobs and come home. Maybe the break will make him realise how much he misses being married, especially if you go there for hols, this could end up being the beginning of the end and then a whole new beginning for your M.....KDU
