Kim - I know I know...but it's not so easy to dump everything here and move away to Country X with H. I mean, 5 months ago (before bombshell), I would have dropped everything and move with H. But I am not sure that I can do it now. I have a good job with good prospects. Plus I've got a company car and a perhaps a promotion at the end of the year (big boss already hinted about this) and all. My family is here. Boys are happy at school here. All my life, I have put myself second and H first - ALWAYS! I quit my job to be a full-time mom so that H could pursue his career. Everything about me was on a back-burner. As a result, I am soooo many years behind my career friends. And now, if I were to give up everything to be a full-time mom and housewife, I don't think I will ever have a chance to build up a career for myself. I probably can't work in the foreign country...What if H does it again? And this time, I don't have a job...kids are grown up...what am I gonna do? I value my M but I think I really need to think hard about ME and the boys. Boys schooling is of a totally different system and different language. It's quite unfair to uproot them for 2 years ...and then what? Can't come back to the local system, and we certainly can't pay for the International School fees on our own. It's horrendously expensive. I know that you would have jump on the chance to say "okay, I'm coming with you..." but he's only saying that he is TRYING very hard and will make things right... But you know how yoyo they can be as well. I just don't want to give up everything when he is not 100% sure. Anyway, he did mention that he wants to check out the country first before he decides if it is safe for us to go... Well, he said to give him 3 weeks to sort out. I thought it was already sorted out...but obviously not. So, Kim....you are shocked and surprised at me not jumping into the opportunity...but I need to be sure that it is safe to cross the road before I do.
