Hi Yoyo glad to see you calmed yourself down. Now as for your sitch I think it is going along nicely and your H is definately not over your M that stands out like dogs balls. I wonder sometimes when he says things if he is waiting for a positive answer from you but that could be my LBS syndrome kicking in and I would hate to give you bad advice. You have to follow your instince sometimes but can i just point out when you have been successfully DBing you get positive reactions from H when you backslide and start getting mad you see negative reactions from H so I would say DBing is working well for you. Patience is something we all have to have in this situations and not many of us have it.....My only suggestion is if H brings up you and the boys joining him maybe try and open the conversation with Look you have mentioned that before but i really don't know what you are saying when you mention that and I dont want to take it the wrong way so if you would like to discuss that possibility I am certainly open to hearing your thoughts on it. That way you don't say what you want until he does....Just a way of getting him to tell you what he would like and for him to know you are interested in hearing him out but not letting him know how you feel about it until you hear his side.......Don't know if it will work but something to think about..... Over on Anna's thread you mentioned you were going to learn to shut your mouth, don't do this if it is not required I think all you have to do is validate your H a bit more, let him know you understand his problems when he tells you them so he may feel more inclined to open up even more to you.......KDU
