I just want to make an observation about your H. It seemed like H was very curious to know if he was 'talked about' after he had left your parents house. My H has asked in the past if my family has said anything about him when I talk to them on the phone...my parents actually don't bring H up, usually I do...so i tell him that they don't say anything.
What I'm trying to get at is that although your H is married to you, not your family, the family may be an obstacle in your H making a decision to come back to the M. You may be able to forgive but the family may not....and H might be afraid of that...that he will never be accepted back IN, like it was before. I KNOW this is my H's biggest fear b/c he always felt that they judged him ( they didn't ) and now they have more reason not to like him. But in H's R talk on Friday...when talking about visiting Evan ( if I'm still living at my parents place ) H said something like " I married you, not them "...meaning no one will stop him from seeing his child...yet he also added a scenario..." When I come to your city ( H has no family there ) I'll probably take a hotel room near you ( my parents place ) and you can bring Evan by "....you see...he's says he's not 'married' to them and acts all tough, but he's afraid to come to their house to see his own son, or me.
I don't know...it's just an observation...and maybe one reason why H is slow to make a decision.
