Even though you never really were in love with your H, and even though you have stayed for the sake of the family and out of guilt, you can decide now to have a better marriage and work on things, if you choose to. MWD points out that love is a choice...you and H can choose to improve things no matter what happened in the past. Are there any redeemable qualities that you see in your h that would be basis for motivation? Would he be willing to work on himself to meet more of your needs? Personally, I never really understood what I was getting myself into when I married, and I have changed plenty from age 21 when I met H. I am attracted to a different persoality style than my H has...there are a lot of negatives, but I choose to focus on the positives. Is there anything positive about your marriage?
