I believe you are talking about the post where I realized that I never fell in love with my H but grew to love my H.
This is the dynamic of every arranged marriage thruout history. They worked for millenia with out the rampant divorce we have now.
I dont see anything wrong with this. At this point in my life I would rather have a wife that loves me for reasons, and is missing that in love feeling, then a x who is so attracted to me and another that she is ping ponging back and forth.
Is your H, abusive? neglectful? You mentioned you would have stayed with x despite womanizing, and some physical abuse. That was a strong attraction, --that I say wasnt healthy. But he generated some very strong emotions in you.
You have a good thing from what I can see over here. Dont let wanting some will-o-the-wisp distract you from what you have.
If you focus on his good stuff, they will generate feelings of love. We all want strong passionate emotions, but what we do to obtain them usually ends up giving us the negative ones. Did someone mention he is younger then you? To him everything is great. He isnt going to know that things need to be different, variety, unpredictable. You are going to have to be the relationship director. Sounds like you have a lot of experience. to it to good use.
Take some seminars with him. You want him to GAL, how is yours?
If you want to feel something go rollerblading without pads on, or bungie jumping, or skydiving. If you want to be fullfilled set goals and acheive them.
