Hey Chrissy Just want to say Hi and see what was going on in Chrissy Land I read your posts but I have nothing to offer for most of what you are going thru. You girls take good care of each other. You are strong for dealing with your sitch though, so give your self props for that. I need to respond to you and LFL over on my thread but you had a couple nuggets in her that I wanted to quote for the guys... and then offer some suggestions for the sex.
Quote: H came home about a two weeks ago and let me know that a few guys at work were going to the beach for a few days of fishing and such and they had invited him along. He of course had stated that he would have to ask his wife. Wish he would have said talk to his wife not ask his wife.
Quote: All and all my rant is this. All the hard work I have put into not only making it possible for H to do this But into convincing him to be open to having fun for himself and not just do it because I think it would be a good experience for him.
on to the good stuff.
Quote: I never have orgasms from sex per say itself. Okay well maybe once or twice.
You are normal. this is typical. Most women dont climax from IC.
Quote: Any how a year or so ago I realized that the only time I orgasm is when my clit is highly stimulated.
How many years have you been haveing sex. That is a rhetorical question that you dont have to answer. I point it out to the guys because many women do not know their own bodies pleasure capabilities. even after years of sex. We are generally expected to teach them. Its not fair. Get over it. If you as the man dont know you are going to have to educate yourself. get Cracking. Its a lot less complicated then programming your VCR, and much more rewarding.
Quote: And oddly enough usually only after the warmth of my H's orgasm.
The Mind is the BIGGEST erogenous zone. Woman are so tuned into their mans mental state, Its not something I have the words to adequetly explain here. It just is. Tap into a womans mind and you will tap into her sex drive.
Quote: Anyhow again.(dam I think I am blushing in cyber land). So once my H orgasm and then I do atleast half the time we continue to have sex.
Confidance comes directly from courage. It took a lot of courage to post and ask this... now let me get this straight. your H climaxs... then you do... then you have IC again? your H is DEFINITELY HD and DEFINITELY attracted to YOU.
Quote: Now to me this sex after my orgasm is awesome it feels alive and stimulating where as sex before orgasm is ahhhh.
OK. If IC after climax is awesome and stimulatind ... why dont you have your H bring you to climax before IC. Either oral or hands, or whatever you do. Do what works. You need time to get warmed up. That is normal. If he still wants to go 2 rounds it is only going to become more 'alive' and more intense for you the more times you climax. Keep this self exploration up and you will be a HDW and then your H will get to see how it feels to be harangued for sex all the time. LOL.
Quote: Thinking that if this is normal then how does a woman ever get to orgasm from just sex? My H has said he wishes he could cause me the orgasm from sex instead of stimulation of my clit but knowing how my body responds to the thrusting prior to orgams vs after I am not sure how it is possible. Any thoughts? And is this normal?
Most dont. occasionally when the planets align. if your H figures out how to align them fine, other wise dont worry about what he wants. It is not your problem. It is just him wanting to feed his ego. It makes him feel studly when it happens. enjoy what you like and focus on what works and do more of that. He doesnt expect his car to run with no oil. He isnt going to get maximum performance out of you either without lubing you up.
