So I was really hoping for some progress and thought there was a light at the end of the tunnel concerning my H and his GAL that did not have to revolve souly around me and my existence.
H came home about a two weeks ago and let me know that a few guys at work were going to the beach for a few days of fishing and such and they had invited him along. He of course had stated that he would have to ask his wife. Wish he would have said talk to his wife not ask his wife. But anyhow. H proceeded to tell me how he knew we could not afford it and blah blah blah. Well I told him to go it would be fun a good experience and I would find the money for him to go. So he agreed to go. Well as time progressed he has found several reasons that he should not go. First they were staying at a friends dads place and that fell through and so it would be the additional cost of a hotel room. Then they were going to have to take to many vehicles. He should be doing this or we should be using money for that blah blah blah. Every reason he has come up with to block his going I have unblocked. I had a yardsale gave him the money so it did not take away from household money, offered my Jeep for the travel anything I could think of. I have also had to try to tacfully turn his attitude from oh well I guess it will be alright to yeah man I cannot wait to go this is going to be great. Made a little progress not great leaps and bounds but everytime he has came off with a moralistic high handed remark I have pointed out maybe that was not the attitude to have maybe he should be a little more open just be one of the boys while he was gone. And he has seemed to loosen up a little. Even asked me to buy him some beer for the trip which a week ago he was denying he would be even drinking and was critical of the fact that the others would be drinking. Which I nicely pointed out to him if he was not fun to be with he would probably not get invited again so lighten up a little. So he has lightened up a little which gives me some hope he does want future opportunities to be invited again and is open to try to enjoy himself.
All and all my rant is this. All the hard work I have put into not only making it possible for H to do this But into convincing him to be open to having fun for himself and not just do it because I think it would be a good experience for him. And now he calls me the day before he is to leave and tells me oh well they may not be going because of the weather. Looks like there is a hurricane headed to the Carolinas coast. WTF the stars must be against me.(yes being shallow I know there are people with much bigger problems then this right now). I just know if they do not postpone but cancel the trip it will be hell to get him to be willing to do this again. If they hand him back his hotel money the whole thing is screwed and we are back to square one. Urgghh I am not a happy camper. (again knowing this all sounds shallow)
So anyhow I do have a question for whoever feels inclined to answer. And this has nothing to do with the above. I started wondering this the other night after H and I had sex.
Okay giving to much personal info here but ah if it helps someone explain this to me what ever.
I never have orgasms from sex per say itself. Okay well maybe once or twice. Any how a year or so ago I realized that the only time I orgasm is when my clit is highly stimulated. And oddly enough usually only after the warmth of my H's orgasm. Anyhow again.(dam I think I am blushing in cyber land). So once my H orgasm and then I do atleast half the time we continue to have sex. Now to me this sex after my orgasm is awesome it feels alive and stimulating where as sex before orgasm is ahhhh. Thinking that if this is normal then how does a woman ever get to orgasm from just sex? My H has said he wishes he could cause me the orgasm from sex instead of stimulation of my clit but knowing how my body responds to the thrusting prior to orgams vs after I am not sure how it is possible. Any thoughts? And is this normal?
Well on a more fun side D18 is home for the weekend for a visit. I think I will be seeing alot more of her soon she is talking about moving home. Yeah not real sure if this is a good move for her marriage but it will be great for her she will be going back to school soon and I will be getting to see tons of her again. Since she has been gone I feel like my best friend disappeared and I am all alone. (Okay so the 20 minutes a day I use to see her was tons of time compared to once a month for 20 minutes lol)
