I understand what you say in part. And when it comes to in the bedroom I am more tolerent of his behavior since I have come to this board and understand better that his sexual needs are important to him which makes it important to our R. But when you look at the fact that every touch by him is of a sexual nature You should be able to see how this would make me feel like I am not worth anything else to him then being a sex toy. I am treated like a whore bought and paid for by a wedding ring and it is like a slap in the face on a daily basis. I am not worth touching if it is not about sex is how it seems to me. And this does not lead me to feel good about myself or about my R or my H.
I don't know Cin like I said since comming to this board I have developed a better understanding of his needs and have been trying to meet them with more openness and less resentment but he makes it hard to want to keep trying when he does things daily he knows that irratate me which makes me feel like me and my feelings are not important to him at all. It is all about him his wants and his needs.
