All different ways. While I was gone my D told me she was here all the time. H even called me once to tell me she had been here since D caught her in the bedroom with H. They were just talking he said. I don't know did not really care at the time. Was thinking she was doing me a favor really. But the more she was here and the more my H said it was to help him with the kids while he was at work and the more my kids would mention this or that about her. The more I got upset. One was because this is my house I worked for these are my belongings and these are my kids. Two was because H was constently begging me to come home. And as you all know one of my largest issues with H is his lack of doing things for himself. My leaving should have forced his hand to start doing for himself instead he just had someone else fill in the blanks for him. Like cooking super tending to the kids and so forth. But my big one was this was not the first of my sons friends moms my H befriended and had a unknown by me friendship with. It seemed like he makes a habit of that. And it left my oldest son in a bad place this was his best friends mother. I also did not and do not approve of revolving door syndrome. People who expose there children to everyone they date for two weeks then on to the next. And I felt this was what H was doing. And would continue to do had I not choose to come back. I keep it in my mind for futuer knowledge though.
The worst part of it all was my H was lambasting me for speaking to my exboyfriend and pretty much treating me like a whore for it. I did not tell him in that he was right to be mad but what he was doing was exactly the same. He still to this day refuses to see it as such. I was wrong he was doing nothing wrong. Funny thing is my ex was trying to help me mentally and emotionally he was not encouraging me to leave my H. The OW was very interested in my H and was encouraging him to just get over it. When I first came back I decided to give him a taste of his own medicine. I accused him of as much as he accused me of. She had bought some things for the house and left some of her things here. I pitched her things and hid the bought crockpot (why through a brand new thing away If she was stupid enough to by it) I threatened to tell her H to my H. The whole nine yards. I really did nothing but act. And probably not well since I do not have much experience to go off of jealousy wise. But I worked off my jealousy of someone else trying to step in and take my place with my kids. For awhile after I came home she would say hateful things about my to my son and put him in the middle trying to find out what was going on here. But she has since moved on to another man and another so I have been forgotten along with my H.
And though my H made himself a hypocrite in my eyes through his one sided judgement. And the kids still bring things up when mama shorty was here and H still trys to say he was not here he was at work the kids tell me different so he has also made himself a liar. Which admittedly I lied to him also. The difference is I lied out of fear he lied to take the superior highroad. It still does not bother me about what may or may not have happened inbetween the two of them that is between them and god. But it still does bother me about my kids
